Comparisons are inevitable

By far, most people rely on superficial snap judgments to live. It comes from our danger-laden primal roots. Being so snappy isn't the most accurate, but it's what gets them by. The comparative few who are "outside this sphere" are able to weave meta-connections skillfully enough, quick as snap judgments but far deeper. The few are like masterminds beyond the 4th wall of a sitcom set: they can see within the box, gaze upon unwitting actors playing out their existences. But they can also come inside and coexist to change variables, experiment with humankind. I refer not to hokey conspiracy theories, but the simple and earthly fact that some people are exponentially more aware of themselves and the (rules of the) world around them than others, and they use this knowledge for their own ends — whether they're charitable, malicious, spiritual, nihilist, or otherwise.

But speaking of actors, have you noticed how often a rising star will get compared to a living (or dead) legend? This is true of non-theatrical accomplishments like music, hockey, and even chess — altho some will rightfully argue there's always a good show to be put on, a fine story to be told.

Part of the point of comparing is to relegate familiarity, encourage adoption: "If you like X, you'll also like Y." The same is overwhelmingly true of things (and not just people), such as how Linux distros have evolved their own GUI approaches which aren't vastly different from Windows or Mac. Marketers are challenged by this everyday. If it's too alien, most people will make a snap judgment and flee. Too familiar… well, can you really be too familiar if it's different?

Well, consider that it also takes courage to make unfamiliar comparisons…

Have you ever wanted to compare one thing to another, then assumed your immediate audience's awareness? Perhaps you heard of a sci-fi movie where reality isn't what it seems to be, and wanted to share it with your friends. The Thirteenth Floor first comes to mind as a comparison point because you enjoyed that most, but weakly feeling pressured towards the popular and not wanting to explain "What's that?", you blurt out: "It's like The Matrix!"

Ever done that? I have. But in recent times, I've been increasingly using obscure/eclectic comparisons. Not to tax my fellows mentally, but to enjoy richer interaction with who "gets it". Who's shared the same experiences. Besides, those who don't "get it" yet and are sufficiently curious will ask you anyway. It's a win for all involved who wish to share.

Here's a game you should play: in casual conversation, refer to 3-4 things you're passionate about that most people don't know. If you find someone who has a zeal for all of them too, you've likely found a shining friend.

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